Women may be more into the emotional aspects of a relationship than men, so if a woman feels intimately bonded with her partner during sex, not having an orgasm is not necessarily going to spoil lovemaking for her. Even so, there are times when a woman will want to fully express her rampant sexuality, experience the maximum richness of making love, and enjoy having one or more powerful orgasms during sex.
Equally, though we often think of a man's role during sex as being that of the leader, setting the pace and rhythm and determining how events proceed, there will be times when he wants to relax and express the more tender, relaxed and gentle side of his sexual nature.
And so we come to the woman on top position - one that allows both men and women to experience a different side of their sexual natures.
A woman can express her natural sexuality more fully in this position than she can when her man is on top because she has much greater freedom of movement, she isn't pinned down by his weight, and either he or she can reach her clitoris and provide enough stimulation to bring her to orgasm. But the advantages of woman on top sex go beyond that. In almost every variation of woman on top sex, a woman can control the amount of friction and pressure her clitoris and vulva get as she and her partner make love: she is, therefore, pretty much in control of her own orgasm.
But she's also in control of the sensual and intimate side of sex. As she sits on her man, with his penis inside her, she can tease and play with him in a way that just isn't possible when he's on top. For example, she can squeeze him with her vaginal muscles as she kisses his lips, his nipples, or his body. She can control how deeply he penetrates her, and how fast she rides him, taking him to the edge of orgasm - or over it - as she chooses. Or, she can ride him in the way that best stimulates her clitoris and brings her to her own orgasm as fast as possible.
And what of her partner? He may find that lying back and letting her take charge is a refreshing experience. It can be thrilling for him to see his partner being so downright sexual - and the sense of being, well, not exactly helpless, but certainly at her sexual mercy, can be extremely exciting and arousing for him.
Woman on top positions in pictures
Woman facing the man
When a woman is squatting over her man, she is able to achieve deep and satisfying penetration while controlling the depth to which his penis enters her. But she must be careful to lower herself gently onto her man, for if he slips out as she descends, and her weight then falls onto his penis, he may be severely injured. (The same is true when she is riding up and down his penile shaft.) The sequence of pictures below shows how she can alter the angle of penetration so that they find the position that gives them both the most pleasure. This is also an ideal position in which to try moving her pelvis in a circle, rather than riding up and down her partner's penis. If she keeps her pelvic mound in close contact with her partner's body, she can get lots of delicious pressure on her clitoris.
As you can see in the pictures, he can also use his hands to caress her and add to her pleasure by stroking her breasts.
Another wonderful thing about this position is that the woman can raise herself along the length of her man's penile shaft so that only the very end of his penis is being gripped by her vagina. Why's it wonderful? Well, shallow penetration with only the very end of his penis tantalizing the outermost part of her vagina can feel wonderful for her. So alternating between shallow and deep penetration can be a teasing, thrilling experience for them both, but especially for her if she also enjoys her vagina being deliciously filled with her man's penis.
By leaning back she may increase the pressure her partner's penis exerts in her G-spot, so giving them both extra pleasure.
In between moments of wild passion (or even gentle slow movements), the energy may ebb and flow so that a couple want to pause and rest. As a neat reversal to the usual order of things, she can lie atop her man as they kiss and cuddle, or simply savor the ecstasy they have just enjoyed. If he has not yet ejaculated, they may rest with his erect penis inside her, simply moving a little every so often so that he remains erect.
The next picture shows how she can reach her clitoris and give herself extra stimulation if she wants to reach orgasm. She will also enjoy having her man suck and kiss her nipples and breasts as she leans over him. However, men need to remember that a woman's body is a sensual thing, her skin a sexual pleasure center, and she'll appreciate attention that focuses on the rest of her body apart from her nipples, clitoris, vulva and breasts.
There's always a sheer joy associated with good lovemaking, but in the woman on top position, sex can sometimes take on an extra dimension that originates in an outpouring of the woman's sexuality. It's certainly possible that some of these expositions may not suit every couple, but they can be a great deal of fun to try.
"Rapturous" is the ideal word to describe the sexual state which a woman can enter when she is having sex on top. Her innate capacity for sexual pleasure and sexual self-expression can come to the fore in this position, as she can move without restriction or inhibition. He can achieve deep penetration, and she can press her clitoris against him, so that reaching orgasm is much easier.
When she is on top, a woman has the chance to fully express herself during sex. She can make as much noise as she likes, and she can move in whatever way suits her, so that if she reaches orgasm, she can extend her pleasure as much as possible. And a woman's orgasm can be very exciting for a man, so the intensely erotic experience of seeing his partner coming may be enough to make him explode too!
Woman facing away from the man
This is a position that will not suit all couples, especially those where the man's penis is stiff and upright when it is erect. The further forward the woman leans as they make love, the greater the strain placed on his penis, up to the point where it becomes uncomfortable. However, as the pictures below show, the woman can express her sexual dominance and offer her partner a good view of her bottom and vulva as she does so!
Finally, three positions in which a woman can control the tightness of her vagina, by bringing her legs together so that much more pressure is exerted on her partner's penis. This position may not be especially comfortable if he has a large penis.
They're good for men with a tendency to ejaculate too quickly. A woman can ride her man slowly or even stop moving altogether if he approaches the point at which he knows he's going to ejaculate. Mind you, he has to communicate this to his partner so that she knows he is nearing "the point of no return". The couple can rest until his arousal has dropped and it is safe to carry on with their lovemaking.
What do you do if a woman is shy about trying sex in the woman on top positions? It depends on what's causing her shyness. If she's over-sensitive about the size and shape of her body, she might try talking to her partner about how he feels about her body. Men rarely share their partner's critical view of themselves. If it's a lack of sexual self-confidence, then simply making the decision to try woman on top sex might help to overcome the problem - when the moment is right (like when she is very aroused) a woman can then seize the initiative and move into the woman on top position at a suitable point in their lovemaking.
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